"I know this sounds childish, but I want a job that is fun.” My client was embarrassed to utter this “dirty” word during our career coaching session. Hearing the discomfort in his voice, I could feel my playful heart break. When did it become wrong to want to have fun at your job? Read full article >
Four years ago, the man I was going to marry broke my heart, and I found myself virtually alone in a new town (one that I had moved to for him). Basic human functions like sleeping and eating felt unbearable. How could I even imagine showing up at work... Read full article >
I used to love playing tennis. In fact, I was a state doubles champion in high school (albeit in the tiny state of Delaware). Then, 15 years ago, a cross-country skiing accident shattered my elbow into “tiny little pieces,” to quote my surgeon. I’m left-handed, and I now... Read full article >
Everyone thought a snake was in my tent when I ran out screaming. But it was only an e-mail, one that made it to my phone—even though we were in the bottom of the Grand Canyon—to inform me that I had been selected to audition for Wheel of Fortune...Read full article >
“At this point in my life, I’m more interested in the depth of my career than its height.” This comment from my friend and mentor, Shoshanna Cogan, stopped me in my tracks. Depth, not height.. As a highly accomplished and talented international trainer, Shoshanna.... Read full article >
Recently, I declined politely (or so I thought) to provide free career advising for a former student I hadn’t seen or spoken to in 10 years—and ended up feeling shamed by her response to my turning down her request. If she had wanted to reconnect or have an informational interview ....Read full article >
After my Scandinavian vacation last summer, I wrote a blog about how one of the Danish secrets to career happiness is biking to work. A few months later, I moved in with my boyfriend, which increased my 15-minute commute via bike into an hour-plus commute by car, metro, and walking... Read full article >
Career Shame hides in the shadows, lurking and taunting, until it can’t be ignored. It’s the nagging feeling that you’re not living up to your own potential. It’s the fear that peers are moving up while you’re being passed over. It’s a gnawing jealousy and a sense that... Read full article >
*HIGHLIGHT* - Listen to my interview on The Flourishing Center Podcast
I was interviewed by The Flourishing Center on the integration of positive psychology and careers. Listen to my approach to coaching and how I help my clients find career happiness. Interview starts at 16:44. Listen >
The Assist Virus has reached epidemic levels. While highly contagious among young professionals, it has also been known to infect seasoned workers. Symptoms include temporary hearing loss when being praised, blindness to strengths, and...
“Please enter your travel dates.” I have ruminated incessantly about my failure to solve this puzzle when I was a contestant on Wheel of Fortune this summer. If only I had figured it out, I would have won the trip, gone to the Bonus Round...
I write a regular blog for the Wholebeing Institute, an educational organization focusing on courses that help people live life to its fullest. I apply a strength-based, positive psychology framework toward inspiring individuals to find career happiness.
I want to fail in 2016. Stumble, trip, fall, and maybe even be humiliated. Fail big and boldly. What sparked this “career fail resolution”? Seeing extraordinarily talented clients beset by fear of failure. Watching students peer over the edge of the next career step... Read full article >
I fell in love with Kanelstang in Denmark. While the Scandinavian men are very attractive, Kanelstang is not the name of my vacation fling. Nope, it’s the Danish word for cinnamon buns. As I sat in the café eating one each morning (and often again in the afternoon), .... Read full article >
Fifteen minutes into my presentation at the World Congress on Positive Psychology this summer, I felt off balance. I was speaking only from my head and not from my heart. Words were coming out, people were nodding, but my authenticity and connection were missing. Read full article >
As I was cursing up a storm when the Patriots took the lead in the fourth quarter, my friend was shocked and delighted to hear this “Philly grittiness” come out of my mouth. “I like this side of Denise!” she exclaimed. Along with high emotions, I gleaned a few lessons... Read full article >
I just missed something big with a coaching client. I was blinded by my laser-focused “career action glasses,” and missed seeing that she lacked a belief in herself and her future. She was a “good” client: She did all the career exploration activities...